My mom use to be the disciplinarian in our family and she could hit hard . My dad seldom hit us unless it was something serious and he would use his belt .
I spanked my kids but usually had them sit in the naughty chair for a while . With my oldest son , I would take my thumb and index finger and pinch the muscle on his shoulder by his neck . I called it the Vulcan Death Grip . His knees would buckle when I did this . When he acted up , all I had to do is call his name and show him my finger and thumb in a pinching motion and he would stop .